Understanding Shame Part 3

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We have all felt shame at one time or another. Maybe we were teased for mispronouncing a common word or for how we looked in a bathing suit, or perhaps a loved one witnessed us telling a lie. Shame is the uncomfortable sensation we feel in the pit of our stomach when it seems we have no safe haven from the judging gaze of others. We feel small and bad about ourselves and wish we could vanish. Although shame is a universal emotion, how it affects mental health and behavior is not self-evident.

In this post we will look at some of the expressions & actions of shame :

  • Hiding behaviour or a characteristic from other people.
  • Avoiding the person you have harmed.
  • Avoiding persons who have criticised you.
  • Avoiding yourself, distracting, ignoring
  • Withdrawing; covering the face
  • Bowing your head, groveling.
  • Appeasing; saying you are sorry over and over and…

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  1. One study looked at people’s reactions to feelings of guilt, shame, and anger, and found some interesting results (Pivetti et al., 2016).

    They found that people who felt shame were more likely to avoid eye contact than people who felt guilty. They also found that people who felt guilt were more likely to want to repair the damage they may have caused than people who felt shame. Those and other findings led the researchers to conclude that:

    “shame is characterized by the desire to hide and escape, guilt by the desire to repair”.

    Results like this have been found in children as young as two-years-old. One study led children to believe they had broken an adult’s toy and determined behaviorally whether the child felt shame or guilt (Drummond et al., 2017).

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