Tips to Untwist Your Thinking

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Twisted thinking describes how some people have a skewed or distorted view and way of thinking about how they see events in relation to themselves and their actions. For example; black and white/all or nothing approach, overgeneralisation, focusing on a single negative rather than the whole picture, jumping to conclusions, discounting the positives, magnifying the negatives and minimising positives, labelling, making “should statements”, emotional reasoning, and blaming yourself when things don’t go as planned.

Here are few tips we have to untwist your thinking :

  • Identify the Distortion – Write down your negatives thoughts so you can see which of the ten cognitive distortions you’re involved in. This will make it easier to think about the problem in a more positive and realistic way.
  • Examine the Evidence – Instead of assuming that your negative thought is true, examine the actual evidence for it. For example, if you feel that you never do anything right…

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Our Children

Parents – DON’T MISS READING THIS!!!

Roth Poetry

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How fast they grow leaving us behind
Dependent creatures with insatiable needs
Little bundles of joy crying at every whim
Now grown, mature, and independent
It was our original goal from the start
Sort of like wanting to go to heaven
Just not now
Life moves on and so do they
Taking our hearts leaving an empty chair
Sometimes detours got in the way
We tried our best not to get in their way.
Although we worked so very hard
Some will stay,
Needing our nurture and strength
Yet another day.
Whatever the outcome life moves on
Slowly leaving us behind to observe
With pride and joy the persons
They have become.
And… whether they go or stay
We love them anyway.

Photo: Dwight L. Roth

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April days

Secret Thoughts Within

Author’s own image

My favourite are the April days
Blissful dreams appearing in the evening
Manifesting themselves in the slanting light
Hopes and promises cover every dewy morning
Full of sunshine and sweet crisp air

Picnics near waterholes and brushing hair out of my eyes
Pulling me in for a kiss amongst the undergrowth
Acoustic serenades of birds add to the romance
Oh these April days of my heart, filled with such delight
You can have them if you’d like

This the call of the Australian Eastern Whipbird. A common sound on tropical walking tracks.

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Zest for Living

Come and enjoy this!

The Girl With The Scorpion Tattoo

“To live life with exciting energy and anticipation, nurtures our soul and gives us the spirit to make us human”

All through Ikigai book, it says: to find a purpose for living a serene life or according to thy book: “Life to be worthwhile”. It talks about being active through out your life. If you are in a cocoon, you will be cocooned for ever. That doesn’t mean you’ve to go outdoors. It means to be active with whatever you can with whatever you have at your doorsteps. You can read more about Ikigai 

DancerThe human soul must be lit everyday, each day. In this lockdown, you can ponder on the strengths in living. It’s time we think about the clarity and add volume to our lives: turn up the volume if needed, and face the truth: Proactivity is a vital part of creating massive success, and it’s the…

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4 Behaviors to Avoid In Your Relationship

Dr. Eric Perry’s Self-Help Blog

Written by Dr. Eric Perry


“When she asked him whether it was true that love conquered all, as the songs said. ‘It is true’, he replied, ‘but you would do well not to believe it.” ~Gabriel Garcia Marquez

We would all like to believe that when we fall in love it will be forever. The truth is, love is a complicated and fluctuating emotion. It is not a superhero power that will conquer all of life’s problems. One has to treat love with respect and nourish it. By pruning the bad behaviors we can allow love to blossom and flourish. I wrote this post because I believe it is important for all of us to identify the behaviors that are deadly for our relationships.

Dr. John Gottman is a therapist who in 2007 was recognized as one of the most influential therapists of the past 25 years. He is a Professor Emeritus…

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Heal the world

Savvy Raj

Heal the world

The stories of the bygone are contained in the stone

For within, it holds the secrets of the past.

The fragile flower owns its freshness to this now

The Blossoming of the bloom is the present truth of time.

How delicate is life and yet so very powerful in potential

One life has the power to transform lives…

But our life carry us on, not backwards

But further into the future.

The good we can do today will impact the life we have in future.

Touch a life positively & make an impact.

Intend with the goodness of your soul.

Treat yourself and others well

For you are creating goodwill in every action

Speak well and share kindness.

Enthuse yourself and create cheer.

Smile through the moments

Live love laugh.

Help heal a life and you have helped heal the world .

Savvy

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introspection

Thanks for sharing this with us Drew!!!

The Lonely Author

introspection

Why does a man choose to walk a path alone, when he has so many friends willing to walk alongside him?

It would be easy for me to say, after my parents passed, I found myself alone in the world. With no siblings, aunts, uncles, or cousins, life forced me into this life of seclusion. But I know this isn’t true.

Yet, every time I find myself in desperate need of companionship and support, I find myself retreating into the comfort of my lonely shell.

To all my friends who have been reaching out to me, I am so sorry for the delay in my responses. It is not a rejection. It is an automatic defense mechanism, probably an unhealthy one, that gets me through these tough moments in life.

It is something I need to conquer if I ever expect to share my life with someone. After all…

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The 2020 Daily Writing Challenge – July 12

Jo Hawk

2020 Daily Writing Challenge

Writing is like driving at night in the fog.
You can only see as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.
– E. L. Doctorow

Today is Day 194 of the 2020 Daily Writing Challenge.

Did you write yesterday? Half of the year is in our rear-view mirror, and I am drawing a line in the sand. The targets I missed, the stories I didn’t compose, they no longer matter. These last six months are history. Done. I won’t lie, 2020 kicked me in the head, leaving me stunned, unsteady, and incapable of completing anything beyond basic tasks. I bet I am not alone, but don’t count me out yet. They say what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger, right? I am confident I will discover I am more capable than I have ever been. I dug deep, reevaluated my annual goals, and I decided…

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Relying on Intuition to Blaze Your Trail – Daily Quote

Jo Hawk

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We’ve all experienced the stark terror of staring at a blank page. While we may have an intended topic or a brilliant idea, the thought of conquering the unknown mocks us, and we freeze. What is more perfect than a pristine page? How can we possibly live up to the expectations? How do we proceed? An old saying counsels that we make a trail by walking. It is only when we turn around that we “find” a path. Art teachers encourage their students to make one mark on the canvas.

Sheer physical willpower is my answer. Whether it is bold and daring, or meek and uncertain, action leads to action. I force my fingers to move. I ignore the panic and type whatever words reach my fingertips. No matter how crazy it sounds, or banal, or weird the phrases seem, I let them flow. I push negative thoughts from my…

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