By Charles Robert Lindholm  2-3-2017 at 4:00 a.m. (The motivation for “Conscious Coma”)

How do you know if you have found your Soulmate?  When you both pick out the exact same card for your Anniversary!

When two hearts beat as one. When you always get excited about being able to get back home to see your Sweetie.  When your Beloved never lets you get out the door without a kiss and an admonition to “Be Careful”!!

When you look around your life and your home and the most important thing you see is your Soulmate.  When you can remember where and when and why you did this or that and how you came to pick out that souvenir or admire an old photo you will know the feeling – and I hope you will!

We live in a retirement community (15,000 people) not too far from the main road, and it never fails that at least once a day you can hear a siren go by and the reality of “The Circle of Life” is once again impressed upon you.  When I was younger I could never quite understand how it was that so often when one spouse of a couple who had been married for  30, 40 or 50 years passed on that the other spouse, who seemed to be in good health, would be very likely to pass on within a year of losing their Soulmate.  Now that I have a Soulmate I understand.  They lose the desire to live on without their Beloved!!!

Losing the desire to live – It seems so crazy when the basic instinct of life is self survival at all costs, but for those who have been lucky enough to have found a little Heaven on Earth with a Soulmate it makes perfect sense.

I always feel so sad for the one who is left behind and I have had too many opportunities to see it up close – and we want to be like the ending in the movie “The Notebook” or like the very most romantic shot in the whole movie “Titanic” where the little old couple is shown spooning in their cabin as the water is coming in (that shot made me cry).

If you have been lucky enough to have had a little Heaven on Earth with a Soulmate it makes perfect sense that you would want to be in Heaven again!

© 2017 Charles Robert Lindholm – All Rights Reserved



    1. Thank you, My Dear! I was happy you were able to mine the emotions and feelings out of this! Not sure I thought of it when writing it but the story of Adam and Eve is one of Soulmates too. Him not wanting to live without Eve! Thank you for such a sweet comment!

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  1. Robert, this is so beautifully written and true. I have noticed the same so many times.
    The only thing that seems to help the surviving partner wanting to live is the deep love from children and grand children. To know they still need the mother/father or grandparent.

    Very rarely do people who had a real soulmate find a new partner. As you say, they want to stay in the heaven they had.

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    1. Why thank you so much, Miriam!!! I so appreciate your wonderful and insightful comment! I think looking back now I can see that the story of Adam and Eve was a story of Soulmates too – He didn’t want to live without his Eve!
      Thanks so much for your following/views and comments!!

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  2. How lovely. I think I always wanted to walk the Moors with Heathcliff or hold hands by the lake with Mr. Darcy at Pemberly for all eternity. I have a feeling that wherever I walk, float, or fly I will be with EVERY person I have ever loved and even those who come after me that are blood of my blood. I’d like to think that I will be whispering in their ears to guide them. I don’t believe we touch only one life, but connect to many, and that like the stars above, we will linger on and glow for eons, casting light and love to inspire the ones who can see our light or hear our silent murmurs just enough to be illuminated enough to put pen to paper and write…

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    1. Oh my Lesley! Your comment is way beyond awesome!!! I loved it! I think you an unfinished poem/prose/article in what you just wrote! Wonderful topic and so elegantly put!! Won’t you write this up for a post? Pleeeeease??? Ha!

      I feel a lot like you stated in you post too!


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